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Please scroll down or click on the following links for websites with resources for pet loss and grief support; guidelines on how to search for a lost animal; recommended books and services; and a list of my articles published in other sites and publications.

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I trust and can personally recommend these services:

Doggy day care – Karen Oliver, http://www.bringroverover.com/ or go to Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/Bring-Rover-Over-155448901145649/

Dog training (including clicker) – Vicki Aquino Ronchette, http://www.braveheartdogtraining.com

Transitional pet care and euthanasia – Cheryl Ramos, DVM, offers “a more peaceful experience for pets and their families.”  www.petseternalrest.com

Transitional pet care and euthanasia – Tiffany Ma, DVM, www.compassionpethospice.com.

Canine massage – Anastasia Lang, http://www.relaxingrex.com/Relaxing_Rex_Website/Welcome.html

Pet and equine cremation, euthanasia and emergency ambulance service – Brian and Anne Dixon, http://www.tranquilitypetcare.com  [Note: this site is temporarily unavailable]

Microchipping  www.homeagain.com – Good information on precautions you can take to keep your pet safe, microchipping your pet, and national database registry.


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A short list of recommended books on grief and pet loss:

Children’s Books

Note that in most of the children’s books available, the main character is a little boy, and in most cases the animal is a dog. Few show girls and other kinds of pets.
Parental support is important in helping children process feelings and engage in some kind of ritual around the burial or remembrance of the pet. In many, many homes that adult support is lacking, so teachers and other adults with whom the child comes in contact may need to provide it.

Van-Si, Laurie, MS.Ed. Saying Goodbye To My Awesome Pet: An activity book for the grieving child. [This activity book is designed to help children cope with the death of their animal companion. It contains different kinds of activities to draw out special memories, a note to parents on how to help their child through their grief, and can become a treasured keepsake. Ms. Van-Si also produced a similar book to help children through loss of a loved human. Available on Amazon.com or through www.goodbyeawesomepet.com. ]

Cochran, Bill. The Forever Dog. HarperCollins. [deals with shifting perceptions]

Disalvo-Ryan, Dyanne. A Dog Like Jack. Holiday House. [honoring feelings; a bonus in this book is the final page on “Losing a Pet,” gently and well written advice about expressing feelings and grieving for parents and children.]

Harris, Robie H. Goodbye Mousie. Elderberry Books. [ritual initiated by little girl]

Mellonie, Bryan and Robert Ingpen. Lifetimes – The beautiful way to explain death to children. Bantam. [good for many ages and settings; repetitive format good for children and reading aloud.]

Rogers, Fred. When a Pet Dies. Putnam. [for young children].

Stickney, Doris. Water Bugs & Dragonflies: Explaining death to young children. Pilgrim Press. [good process book]

Tousley, Marty. Children and Pet Loss: A Guide for Helping. Our Pals, 1996. [a slender booklet with good guidance to help parents and teachers help children understand death, written by a bereavement counselor]

Wilhelm, Hans. I’ll Always Love You. Crown. [adjusting to an aging dog]

Viorst, Judith. The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. Atheneum Books for Young Readers. [one of the best children’s books I’ve read; Barney is a cat. Shows parental understanding and guidance through grief process.]


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Books for Adults

Adamec, Christine. When Your Pet Dies: Dealing with your grief and helping your children cope. toExcel, 2000. [well-organized overview with recommendations for dealing with death, grief, separation, euthanasia, other pets, and other people]

Allen, Moira Anderson. Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet. Morris Publishng, 2009. [another well organized book with specific chapters and people’s stories about various aspects of pet loss, including accidents and disappearances]

Carmack, Betty J. Grieving the Death of a Pet. Augsburg Fortress, 2003. [the benchmark book on pet loss and grief; heartfelt and wise, although it may be a little clinical for some grieving pet people]

Eastwood, Liz. Soul Comfort for Cat Lovers: Coping wisdom for heart and soul after the loss of a beloved feline. 2012. www.soulcomfortforcatlovers.com. [written especially for cat lovers, although the wisdom applies to other animals, too]

Reynolds, Rita M. Blessing the Bridge. NewSage Press, 2001. A beautifully written, fairly short (178 pages) book that is a valuable guide for animal as well as human end of life spiritual issues.

Smith, Penelope. Animals in Spirit: Our faithful companions’ transition to the afterlife. Atria Books, 2008. [sensitive stories of messages from/with animals as they prepared to transition and after, by a pioneer in animal communication]

Tousley, Marty, RN, and Katherine Heuerman. The Final Farewell: Preparing for and Mourning the Loss of Your Pet. Our Pals, 1997. [A small book, filled with tender guidance on preparing for the death of your loved animal companion before and after the actual death. Sensitively presented.]

Wagner, Teresa. Legacies of Love: A Gentle Guide to Healing from the Loss of Your Animal Loved One [audiobook], Matters of the Heart. [an audiobook treasure, gently guides the listener through the grieving process]


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Sites with good information on pet loss and bereavement:

https://www.neptunesociety.com/resources/the-guide-to-pet-bereavement-what-to-expect-after-the-loss-of-a-loved-one – Pets grieve too. This article has helpful information on helping your animals through their grief as well as helping you through your own.

www.petloss.com – Pet loss grief support resources; Monday night candle ceremony; several contributors.

www.pet-loss.net – Pet loss grief support resources, hosted by Moira Anderson Allen, M.Ed.

www.aplb.org – Association for Pet Loss & Bereavement, resources; chat room for online pet loss support.

www.griefhealing.com – Resources, information, comfort and support for anyone coping with or anticipating the loss of a loved one, either person or animal companion; hosted by Marty Tousley, certified hospice bereavement counselor.

http://www.petrescue.com/petlibrary/pet-rescue/how-to-find-a-lost-cat-or-dog/ – A good checklist for what to do and how to conduct a search for a missing animal.

http://csu-cvmbs.colostate.edu/vth/diagnostic-and-support/argus/Pages/grief.aspx – Colorado State University’s Veterinary Teaching Hospital, Argus Institute, has beautifully organized sections on end of life process and grieving.

https://www.caring.com/articles/five-stages-of-grief – this article gives an updated look at the traditional five stages, with a “Five tasks: No timeline” approach. Well worth a read.

 


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Recently Published Articles

These articles of mine have been published in other sites or publications. Those published in online publications can be read by clicking the link following them.

She Rises 2

She Rises (Vol. 2)

 “Meeting Sheela Na Gig.” In She Rises (Vol. 2): How Goddess Feminism, Activism and Spirituality? Helen Hye-Sook Hwang et al., Editors, pp. 330-334. Mago Books, 2016.

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Oh Sister, My Sister

“Big Sister.” In Oh Sister, My Sister: An Anthology on Sisterhood. Jyoti  Wind, Editor, 2015, pp. 4-5. Starshine Press, 2635 Mapleton Ave., #9, Boulder, CO 80304.

 

Compassion, Reiki, and Animals’ Perspectives.” Shelter Animal Reiki Association Blog, March 10, 2015.   http://www.shelteranimalreikiassociation.org/blog/2015/03/10/compassion-reiki-and-animals-perspectives/. [Reproduced in Blog section under same title.]

“Honesty, Reiki, and Animals’ Perspectives.” Shelter Animal Reiki Association Blog, November 20, 2014, and in Animal Reiki Source newsletter, 12/1/13. [Reproduced in Blog section under same title.]

“Humility, Reiki, and Animals’ Perspectives.” Shelter Animal Reiki Association Blog, April 9, 2014, and in Animal Reiki Source newsletter. [Reproduced in Blog section under same title.]

“Unseen and Seen, the Red-Tail Hawk.” January 30, 2014. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/01/unseen-seen-the-red-tailed-hawk-nancy-schluntz-poem/

“Worry, Reiki, and Animals’ Perspectives.” Shelter Animal Reiki Association Blog, September 29, 2013, and in Animal Reiki Source newsletter, October 9, 2013. [Reproduced in Blog section under same title.]

“Anger, Reiki, and Animals’ Perspectives.” Shelter Animal Reiki Association blog, August 27, 2013.  [Reproduced in Blog section, slightly modified, under same title.]

“Grief and Letting Go: When Hospital and Animals in Rehabilitation Die.” In Sulphur Creek Nature Center Volunteer Newsletter, December 2012, page 3. [Reproduced in Blog section under same title.]

“Grief and Letting Go: When Resident Animals Die.”In Sulphur Creek Nature Center Volunteer Newsletter, June 2012, page 3. [Reproduced in Blog section under the same title.]

The Creative Arc

 

“Writing, Like Breathing.” In The Creative Arc: An Anthology on Writing. Jyoti Wind, Editor, 2012, pp. 5-6. Starshine Press, 2635 Mapleton Ave., #9, Boulder, CO 80304.

Unraveling Mysteries

“The Drive to Tell the Story.” In Unraveling Mysteries: An Anthology on Women and Aging. Jyoti Wind, Editor, 2011, pp. 5-7. Starshine Press, 2635 Mapleton Ave., #9, Boulder, CO 80304.

 

 

Articles published by The Chaplaincy Institute for Arts & Interfaith Ministries:

The Legend of Interfaith – Ordination Sermon, September 2007, By Rev. Nancy Schluntz

Good afternoon. This is a path that has been a long time walking for me. I have received kick-starts and nudges along the way, and other times it was more like the universal two-by-four to the side of the head. … As I learned to speak my own Truth, I was given this dream to share with you – the short version!   [single drumbeats throughout]

Harken, my children. The campfire burns bright, and there is a story that wants to be told. In the Before, before time began, there was the One. And the One became curious about itself and divided into many parts. And time began. …

To read the rest of this sermon, please click this link:  http://chaplaincyinstitute.org/library/ecospirituality/the-legend-of-interfaith/

Newsletter Issue: April 2008

Thoughts on the Chaplaincy Institute Program – An Alumni’s Reflections, By Rev. Nancy Schluntz

Beginning the Chaplaincy Institute program, I expected breadth of information and exposure to the world’s religious traditions.

I did not expect the rich tapestry woven by the students’ histories, experiences and perspectives, and the dialogue with instructors….

To read the rest of the article, please click this link: http://chaplaincyinstitute.org/library/the-chi-experience/thoughts-on-the-chaplaincy-institute-program/

Newsletter Issue: March 2008

Common Threads in World Religions: The Ethic of Reciprocity, By Rev. Nancy Schluntz

“God has made different religions to suit different aspirations, times, and countries. All doctrines are only so many paths; but a path is by no means God Himself. Indeed, one can reach God if one follows any of the paths with wholehearted devotion.”  (Ramakrishna)

Have you noticed how great ideas are sometimes put forth by different people in different places, at the same time? This happens in science, when two independent sets of researchers come up with the same “breakthrough” at the same time, halfway around the globe from each other. It happens in everyday places like the daily comics, when two independent comic strips come up with the same story line at the same time.

Where do these ideas come from, and why are they received at the same time by different people?  ….

To read the rest of this condensed sermon, please click this link: http://chaplaincyinstitute.org/library/interfaith-spirituality/common-threads-in-world-religions/

Newsletter Issue: November 2009

The Good Samaritan: Compassion, Ego, Responsibility, and ‘Just Because’, by Rev. Nancy Schluntz

In an age when storytelling was the primary way to teach, Jesus was a master at telling stories, or parables, that convey the core of a teaching. The parable of the Good Samaritan (1) is more than a story. It is an archetype—a universal story that is played out over and over around the world. This parable answers the question, ‘Just who is my neighbor, anyway?’ Its mastery is that it covers all the bases—compassion, ego, and responsibility. ….

To read the rest of this condensed sermon, please click this link: http://chaplaincyinstitute.org/library/practical-theology/good-samaritan-compassion-ego-responsibility-just-because/

Newsletter Issue: August 2010

[Also published on Scribd at:  http://www.scribd.com/doc/39306523/The-Good-Samaritan-Compassion-Ego-Responsibility-and-Just-Because ]

Articles published by The Dream Tribe:

The Dream Tribe is a membership website.  To read these articles, please see the ‘Blog’ page article by the same name.

“Is Your Dream Secretly a Forgotten Memory?”

“The Good Message in a Nightmare”

“Is Your Pet Sending You a Message in Your Dream?”

“Visits from Animals in Dreams and Waking Life”

Articles published elsewhere:

Species Link – the Journal of Interspecies Telepathic Communication, Winter 2009
Poems by Tyson Cat and Nancy Schluntz [To read these poems, please see the ‘Blog’ page article of same name]:
 
“Ode to the Cat”

“Thoughts on Leaving”

“Night Journey”


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